The First Hurdle.
It seems almost cruel how easy sobriety is now for me as I guide those with their feet first on the path. The struggle is so great and the understanding not yet quite clear, and I see the newbies stumbling around in their old conditioned thoughts of conflict and drama.
I wish that I could transport you into your mind six or eight months down the line, just for a day, so that you could see how effortless sobriety can be. For once you truly take on board the fact that the internal shifts create the outer changes, you can forge ahead and create the life of your dreams. Just like I have:
- Alcohol Addiction to Freedom
- Bankruptcy to Financial Security
- Abusive Relationship to Loving Marriage
- 9 to 5 Job to Living My Purpose
- Eating Crap to Wanting To Eat Healthily
It’s all possible, all of it.
But ONLY if you first believe it.
And that is the trick, the million dollar question, the conundrum, most peoples sticking point: they don’t believe they can have it.
Successful people believe they can be successful:
- The olympic athlete believes in training they can be first over the finish line
- The flourishing entrepreneur gets up early everyday to get on top of their business
- The musician practices everyday in the belief that they will master the new piece
Each have a formula for success whether that be practicing the piano for an hour each morning, training at the gym every day, or getting into the office by 9 to get on top of things.
Successfully sober people have it easy because they’ve worked out their formula and life gets easier and easier, and then once you’re at this point you’ll be looking at those just starting out thinking, as I do, how cruel it is when you meet your first challenge.
In our newfound sobriety we also need a formula that works for us, a plan; we need to get organised and prepared!
And once we have an outline of what we are going to do instead of drinking / drugging / binge-eating we can easefully fall into this framework and glide into our new sober life.
It’s all about creating a new habit, and then that habit becomes your new normal = and totally beautifully effortless.
We’ve all done this so many times before:
- Driving a new car
- Speaking a new language
- Living in a new house
- Holidaying in a different country for the first time
- A new job
The list is endless of things we’ve done in our lives that at first were uncomfortable and difficult, but once eased into, effortless and normal. This is how expansion happens; we keep creating new normals but they are bigger and bigger, more and more out of our original comfort zone. And at some point we look back and realise that we have become almost a new person, and the old you that struggled so much is a distant memory.
AND TO GET THERE WE MUST MIX WITH PEOPLE WHO ARE ALREADYDOING WHAT WE WANT TO DO / ARE WHERE WE WANT TO BE
So that they can lift us up.
But we have to be willing to stretch ourselves.
But you have already said yes to that, otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this. So welcome to the community, welcome to the future, welcome to freedom in sobriety….
Quote’s of the Week
In this section you will read something that has been said by one of the Quantum Sobriety Online Programme members over on the very lively private forum:
“Excellent evening- wood fired pizza with my friends in the pub.. So much less expensive when you’re AF…. and had such a laugh” V, Online Course Member, UK
“Feel so full of life and love. I am flying free. Feeling amazing, thank you Jo! You have taught me how to deal with so many different aspects of my life through self love and meditation.” L, Online Course Member, UK
“I was just thinking this morning about the lucky lucky people on retreat with Jo this week and remembering our retreat with *** in August. Thursday was my breakthrough, during forgiveness meditation. I felt so free I got up and danced around the studio after meditating!” D, Online Course Member, Ireland
“Thank you and thank you for creating this unique and life changing program. Picking up the phone that day to call you was one of the best decisions of my life and my soul knew that if I did, that would be it. I never told you this before but the first time I came across your writing , a few years ago, it blew me away. I thought “that woman speaks out the truth , with ease” and I emailed you straight away to say loved that writing and you said then that you had done this journey and wanted to help others do the same. I think you had just recently got Inner Guidance…. So for me Jo De Rosa represented truth, but apart from a months break from alcohol , I wasn’t ready for your world , but I friggin am ready NOW. The only thing I needed to do was quit the bloody alcohol, the rest will follow and I don’t know why it took so long.. I pushed it to my limit, till my soul said enough and gave me an emotional drunken meltdown that would scare me so much , it was this path or the other one… At that point it’s quite easy , once you choose and I was always going to come back to my soul… I am so glad that part of my life is done and lessons learnt and I am here with you.. You are truth to me and to me truth is a deepest value and deepest respect, which I have for you and this program… So from my soul to your soul please feel the friday night love of truth xxx Can’t beat it.” J, Online Course Member, UK
“All is good. Rock solid in sobriety from alcohol and smoking. Resisting sugar urges more and more often.
Meditating and consciously trying to stay in a State of Love.
Having real conversations with people, it feels more meaningful. I feel a shift. I have a clearer vision for my future and I’m really excited about it……I’m still being told I look great and I am obviously putting out a different/higher vibe than I used to. It’s so much easier now, 5 months on, to be observant of my thoughts and replace the negative ones as soon as I notice them with happier thoughts. It’s easier to be kind and patient with myself. I still get urges and triggers and annoyed.. but I can cope with it. Mediation, this group, your comments, love and support, and recalling your stories and suggestions, is what has made this possible. Thank you and much love to everyone. xx ” D, Online Programme and Residential Retreat, UK
” I joined the Quantum Sobriety Group in February of this year. My addiction was sugar and I am an emotional eater. My problems began when I was 11 years old at Secondary school, I was picked on by a girl and emotionally bullied. This bullying affected my confidence and up until about 4 years ago I never told anyone about the bullying, I kept it a secret. Nobody knew about my issues with how I felt about myself, I didn’t love myself, I felt fat and ugly, I hid it all under my ‘bubbly exterior’ laughing lots and over compensating. I met Jo Da Rosa a few years ago when she was teaching yoga and meditation in Hertfordshire. I have attended a few retreats at Inner Guidance in Suffolk and when Jo announced the ‘Quantum Sobriety Group’ I enquired if it would be good for me and my issues with food. I joined the group and it has been eight amazing months, don’t get me wrong there have been some ups and downs over those 5 months. My biggest achievement is that I am now 5 months sugar free. My tastes for sweet things have changed, I used to look at the pudding menu first when I went out to eat and use to have pick and mix at the cinema. The thought of eating something like this now makes me feel ill. I now make amazing raw chocolate brownies as a lovely healthy treat.
I had a huge emotional shift last week that I really want to share with anybody that has issues with emotional eating. I had a bad day at work, I had a huge disagreement with someone, this would have normally been a huge trigger for me to want sugar or to overeat on rubbish. I decided to walk away from the situation and I went back to my desk. I did make some raw chocolate brownies the night before and had one with me at work, for a second I did think about eating the brownie, but something in me resisted and I decided NO I am not going to eat it as it would be to comfort myself because I was feeling angry/upset. I decided to go for a walk, I cleared my head and came back feeling empowered. A couple of hours later I ate my brownie with a cup of chai tea and really enjoyed it knowing that I was not eating it as a fix to an emotion that I was feeling.
None of this would have been possible without Quantum Sobriety, having the Facebook community to reach out to has been amazing, I posted on the group last week and shared my shift with the emotional eating. Along with the Facebook Community the meditation practice has helped me centre myself and calm any triggers that may come up. If you are struggling with an addiction no matter what that is, Alcohol, Drugs, Food etc, I highly recommend this group to you. It has been life changing for me, it has opened my eyes up and I can truly say that I love myself now inside and out. Go for it, open your mind and heart to the Quantum, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain. “
Theresa, Online Programme, UK